Friday, April 30, 2010

When?

Adoption has started my family.  Adoption has fulfilled my heart.  Adoption has hurt me.  Adoption is easy.  Adoption is hard.  Adoption is complicated. 

I secretly hoped that having C would erase ease the past two years.  Maybe eventually it will?!  I can still feel the pain of month after month not being pregnant.  Friends and family getting pregnant, carrying their babies, and having them all in the time I was waiting and wanting to become a mother.  I still feel guilty for not being 100% happy for them.  It is so hard to explain being happy for someone else and hating it all at the same time.  I guess you call that jealousy.  And that I was.  The decision to adopt was actually easy.  We wanted a child and my body was failing to provide that naturally.  Anyone suffering from infertility knows it is both physically and mentally painful.  We never felt it necessary to have a biological child.  We wanted to be parents and for us, biology was not and is not important.  I'm not gonna lie, the waiting sucks.  You can't do anything to make things happen.  You are powerless.  You just have to live life, knowing hoping that one day it will happen.  It sucked to have our profile looked at and not picked.  Frankly, it hurt my feelings.  What was wrong with us?  Should we do something different?  Now I know that our profile was true to who we are, and nothing was "wrong" with us.  Getting the first match was overwhelming.  I could not believe it was actually happening.  Finally, something was going right for us.  "I'm sorry to have to tell you this", replays far to often in my head.  I still have not wrapped my head around it all.  What happened?  We had such a great relationship beginning to bloom with the birth mom.  I am still hurt, sad, mad over losing him.  I was in love with the idea of being his mother.  I think about him often and hope that one day it will soon fade into the background and just be a small part of a big picture.  I never got to be excited in anticipation of being C's mother.  Instead, I get the excitement of being C'smother.  The love I have for her is nothing I thought it would be.  It is stronger, it is deeper, it is amazing.  Her smile melts my heart.  Every little thing she does makes me so proud.  Her laugh fills me with joy.  Because of her, I am better.

“May the dreams of your past be the reality of your future”~Unknown

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Birthday Boy

Steven~
I am so happy that we are finally the same age again!  It's about time you grew up a little!  Today is your first birthday as a dad (to a human).  I know that will make this day even more special.  With each year that passes, I get to be apart of seeing the man you are becoming.  You simply amaze me.  #1) You put up with me and....still love me...more everyday.  When you look at me it's like you fall more in love with me.  I want that for C.  I hope know that she will see what an amazing man her father is, and find someone who can make her #1.  #2) You are the best dad...EVER!  I always wondered what it would be like to see you as a father.  It's better then I thought.  You love C so much!  You are so hands on.  I see the love you have for C mirrors the love my dad has for me.  There is nothing like pure father daughter love.
I love you more as each minute passes.  I love the family we have created.  I love our journey in life together.  I am so thankful that I have you to share life with.  You are my everything.  I love you more then the birds love our attic!
Happy Birthday my love!

Love,
Julie

Sunday, April 18, 2010

Three Months Old!

On Saturday, April 17th, I turned three months old!  I celebrated the day by having my picture taken at Sears and dinner at Kassandra's.


Here's what I have been up too!

  • I eat 6, 5, or 4 oz. depending on the time of day

  • I still love tummy time

  • I only will sleep in my swing for naps, but mommy lets me because I sleep great!

  • My favorite song is "Old MacDonald"

  • I love watching the dogs

  • I LOVE outside, I am ALWAYS happy out there!

  • I enjoy reading books

  • I like to sleep with something (taggie, blanket, or burp cloth) on my face

  • I have a huge smile

  • I sleep 10-12 hours a night!

  • I love to stand-up

  • I like to be held facing out (I'm curious about the world!)
Thanks for checking in on me!

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Monday, April 12, 2010

Extra Easter Pictures

Family of 3!


Meeting her Great-Grandpa




Sunday, April 4, 2010

C's First Easter

I love that this is a year of  "firsts" for C.  We get to put traditions in place for our growing family.  How exciting! 
This morning C and I made daddy Easter Pancakes! 


Not only did they look great, the tasted great too!  I can't wait until next year when Chloe can help eat them!
Then Chloe got her Easter basket!
And had a mini photo shoot!
Then we went to visit Chloe's great-grandfather and of course she showed off!
I have a few family pictures I need to get from my mom to add.
What a wonderful day.  We LOVE this little girl!

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